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Screening FAQs

The following is a screening tool that can help you determine if your loved one has a problem and/or to help your family to with professional help.

If you answer “Yes” to any of the questions, you need to seek professional help:

  1. Are you being held hostage by an untreated person’s addictions and/or behaviors?
  2. Do you feel like your family or friends are also being held, hostage?
  3. Do you feel like you are walking around on eggshells or uncomfortable in your own home, because of your loved one’s addictions and/or behaviors?
  4. Are you lying to your partner, children, friends or others about your loved one’s addiction and/or behaviors?
  5. Are you engaging and debating with your loved one, perhaps unaware or fully aware you are enabling your loved one’s addictions and/or behaviors?
  6. Do you give in because you feel beat down by an untreated person’s addictions and/or behaviors? Do you feel like you just cannot deal with the situation and give in, even when you swear to yourself that you will not?
  7. Are you lying to yourself and others to hide their problems or attempt to protect their reputation?
  8.  Do you feel like you are keeping your loved one alive by letting them stay at home, and/or use drugs? Are you are being consumed and controlled by your concerns about their safety and well-being daily?
  9. Are you staying awake at night or losing sleep worrying about how you are going to help or come up with funds to solve your loved one’s problems?
  10. Do you feel that you are living part of your loved one’s life by involving yourself with buying drugs and alcohol and hiding it from everyone?
  11. Are you seeing a progression in the use of drugs and/or alcohol which is increasing and causing more damage in your loved one’s life?
  12. Are you feeling embarrassed, ashamed and alone, or trapped in your loved one’s addiction and/or behavior patterns?
  13. Has your loved one been convicted of a crime for drug or alcohol-related issues or have you put yourself into a risky situation because of your loved one’s lifestyle?
  14. Do you feel abused daily by your loved one’s addictions and/or behaviors?
  15. Are you being truthful with yourself that your loved one has a chronic addiction?
  16. Are there any children negatively impacted by your loved one’s addictions and/or behaviors?

I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.

Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?

Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.

How long will it take?

Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.